Easter is often a time spent with family or friends, whether that’s a barbecue in the garden, an egg hunt for the kids, or a few drinks at the local pub after a spring walk. But tensions can soon arise during a weekend with the in-laws, and this husband has taken things one step too far this Bank Holiday weekend.
His wife, who was left ‘livid’ by her husband’s poor efforts, took to Mumsnet to share her frustration. She first addressed that he was ‘hungover’ before explaining the situation. She wrote: “We’re at my in-laws for the Easter weekend, my husband decided to nip out to the pub last night to say a quick hello to old friends from the village, I stayed at his parents and put our 6 month old dc [darling child] to bed. He gets in a 3:30 drunk and wakes us all up, I spend the next hour trying to get baby back to sleep.”
The wife continued: “He’s supposed to be cooking us all an Easter meal, but he’s currently laying on the garden lawn with a bucket next to him. His mum is bringing him tea and toast, but I have no sympathy.
“He thinks I’m overreacting and that’s it’s funny and i should ‘chill out man’ … his parents have bought all the food for him to make the meal, and made a big effort to make everyone Easter bags, and it’s our sons first Easter, I know he won’t remember but I still wanted it to be special.”
The post was flooded with support, with many backing the wife over her partner’s behaviour, and a poll was added underneath asking if she was being unreasonable. One user commented: “Yes, it’s absolutely ridiculous. One thing when you are 20 and home from uni. Very different when you are an actual adult with a baby. What if you had done the same? People would not be so forgiving of you ditching your baby to go to the pub and being unable to cook Easter lunch for family.”
A second offered: “It sounds like staying with his parents, with his mum to pander to him and indulge him, he has reverted to immaturity and boyhood. He has forgotten he is now an adult with a wife and young child.
“It’s one thing for him to meet up with his pals for a couple of drinks but what on earth was he doing up until 3.30 in the morning? Was he out clubbing with them? I think you are right to feel upset and let down OP. And you need to have a serious conversation with him.”
“That’s ridiculous, meeting up with old friends at the pub and having a few drinks, perfectly fine. Being so hungover that he can’t now cook as promised, unacceptable, ” a third added.
In a bid to offer some advice and save part of the day, one shared: “Maybe you and baby (and in-laws if they want) should go out for a few hours – a nice walk, the park, feed the ducks, whatever. Tell him you’ll be back for lunch. He has a self-inflicted hangover. He’s not dying. You can still enjoy your day even if he feels unable to participate.”
Another added: “Whatever else happens, absolutely do not give in and cook that lunch. If his mother chooses to, it’s on her, but if you do it, you’re setting a precedent that you’ll take on his responsibilities.”
Others tried to reassure the woman that it could have been a one time thing, that got a little out of hand. “If is a a rare event I would not be bothered,” someone said.
However, comments quickly followed that agreed it was out of order. “I would be furious! Going out for a few beers to catch up with old friends, absolutely fine. Getting so sloshed that he can’t function the next day, unacceptable,” another wrote.
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